TRUST GOD TO LEAD YOU WELL INTO AN UNKNOWN FUTURE: You and your spouse cannot possibly know what circumstances you will encounter during your life time, but God knows. No matter what happens to you in the future, good or bad, trust God to guide you through it all. Every day, ask the Holy Spirit to give you wisdom, so that you will know how best to deal with each situation you encounter that day.

SURROUND YOURSELVES WITH A STRONG SUPPORT NETWORK: Develop close relationships with friends and family who also trust God and support each other in ways that strengthen each other’s marriage with prayer, encouragement, accountability and practical help when needed. Participate in a healthy local Church together and build close relationships there.

KEEP COMMUNICATION LINES OPEN AT ALL TIMES: Make sure that you and your spouse are communicating honestly and openly about the decisions that each of you face on a regular basis. Don’t surprise your spouse by deciding something that affects both of you without first discussing it together. Check in with each other for regular conversation.

RESPOND WITH LOVE AND RESPECT WHEN YOU DISAGREE: Whenever you and your spouse disagree about something, since you are different people with different view points, focus on understanding each other’s perspectives rather than trying to figure out who’s right and who’s wrong. Listen to each other carefully and value each other’s opinions. Try to reach a mutual agreement. But if, after discussing the issue lovingly and respectfully, you cannot agree on it, the husband should make the final decision according to what he thinks is best, keeping in mind that he should love his wife sacrificially, take her perspective seriously and strive to meet her needs in the decision process.

CONTROL YOUR ANGER: Be careful not to hurt your spouse through the ways you express your anger such as by speaking harsh words. Ask the Holy Spirit to give you the self-control and show you healthy and productive ways like motivation for solving problems rather than in destructive ways. When you’re arguing with your spouse and are having trouble controlling your anger, take a walk and resume discussing the issue later when you are calmed down.

ENCOURAGE¬† EACH OTHER TO PURSUE FAMILY GOALS: Bring out the best in each other by encouraging each other to pursue the goals that God has placed on both of your hearts. Don’t let any of your goals get neglected; aim to be fair and equitable about how you allocate your shared attention, time, energy and money so that both of you can pursue your God-given goals.

EXCHANGE ANXIETY FOR PEACE THROUGH PRAYER: Whenever situations make you or your spouse anxious, pray about them, trusting God to intervene in those situations and guide and empower you to deal with them well. As you trust God, He will give you peace. Establish and maintain a habit of praying with your spouse for wisdom, direction and strength in your marriage and to communicate with God about specific concerns that each of you have. Pray regularly by holding your hands together.