Bonhoeffer setting in a Nazi prison cell once wrote a wedding sermon for a niece who was about to be married. In it he said,”Marriage is more than your love for each other. It has a higher dignity and power, for it is God’s holy ordinance through which he wells to perpetuate the human race till the end of time. In your love you see only your two selves in the world, but in marriage you are a link in the chain of generations, which God causes to come and to pass away to his glory and calls into His Kingdom. In your love you see only the heaven of your happiness, but in marriage you are placed at a post of responsibility towards the world and mankind, your love is your own private possession, but marriage is more than something personal-it is a status an offfice”.

By divine permission a man and a woman may co-operate with God’s purpose and become a part of it. But the home they establish remains His establishment.”Unless the Lord builds the house, those who build it labour in vain. The children receive their  status as ( Psalm 127:1) members of the family by His act. “God sets the solitary in families” ( Psalm 68:6). The business of cultivating your family’s relationship with Jesus has two parts in it basically.

The first part consists of establishing the ‘Divine Order’ in the house. This has to do with the relationship of order and authority among the various members in a family. The second part consists of practising the presence of Jesus. This is the adventure of sensitizing ourselves to the invisible presence of Jesus in the home-learning the practical ways in which we may intensify our awareness of His way and His will for our family. It is only as we practise the presence of Jesus that our homes become truly christian.

The woman holds her mate in high regard which God has conferred on him with the name ‘husband’- the man likewise cherishes the woman whom God has honoured with the name ‘wife’.

( Proverbs 31:10-31 ) presents the Bible’s most complete and beautiful picture of what a good wife should be. She is capable, ambitious, a willing worker, kind, wise, trustworthy, cheerful and providing for her household . She knows her worth. She uses to good purpose her intelligence, her physical strength, her God-fearing character. She makes life abundant for her husband and their children.

What triggers all this creature effort? Is it a husband who holds the whip over her and keeps her submissive? On the contrary it is a husband who expresses his unqualified appreciation for her. Her husband praises her: Many wives have done excellently, but you surpass them all. Where a husband fulfills also his role in God’s order-which is to love his wife and not be harsh with her.(Colossians 3:19) Then a wife’s submission becomes a  fountain of mutual love and devotion, a thing of surpassing moral and spiritual beauty.