1.REMEMBERING-Remember that God joined you together in marriage.“What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:6). Do not forget that God Himself joined you together in marriage, and He intends for you to stay together and be happy. Has love almost disappeared from your home? The devil (that notorious home-breaker) is responsible for this. God will bring happiness and love into your lives, if you will obey His divine rules and live by His commandments.

2.GUARDING-Guard your thoughts. Don’t let your senses trap you. “Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life” (Proverbs 4:23). The wrong kind of thinking will destroy your marriage. The devil will trap you with thoughts like these: “Our marriage was a mistake.” “She doesn’t understand me.” “I can’t take much more of this.” “We can always divorce if necessary.” “I’ll go home to mother.” “He smiled at that woman.” Stop thinking thoughts like these, because your thoughts and senses govern your actions.

3.SOLVING-Never retire for the night angry with each other “Let not the sun go down upon your wrath” (Ephesians 4:26). To remain angry and upset over hurts and grievances (big or little) is exceedingly dangerous. Unless quickly solved, even little problems become set in your mind as convictions and attitudes adversely affect your whole philosophy of life. This is why God says to put away anger before retiring at night. Be gracious enough to forgive and to say with sincerity, “I’m sorry.” After all, no one is perfect. YOU ARE BOTH ON THE SAME TEAM.

4.KEEPING-Keep Christ in the center of your home. “Except the Lord build the house, they labour in vain that build it” (Psalms 127:1). This is the greatest rule. It really covers all the others. Put Christ first! The real secret of true happiness in the home is not diplomacy, strategy, and untiring effort to overcome problems, but rather, union with Christ. Hearts filled with Christ’s love can never be very far apart. With Christ in the home, marriage will be successful.

5.PRAYING- Pray together. “Pray one for another” (James 5:16). Pray aloud for each other! This is a wonderful rule that succeeds beyond the wildest dream. Kneel before God and ask Him for true love for one another, for forgiveness, for strength, for wisdom and for the solution to problems. God has given a personal guarantee that He will answer. No family ever breaks up while sincerely praying together for God’s help.

6.LOVING-Criticism and nagging destroy love. “Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them” (Colossians 3:19). Stop criticizing, nagging, and fault finding. Your husband or wife may lack much, but nagging won’t help. Don’t expect perfection else bitterness will result. Overlook faults, and hunt for the good things. Don’t try to reform, control, or compel your partner. You will destroy love. Only God can change people. Try to make your spouse happy rather than good, and the good will take care of itself.