1. Confidence:

“The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.” (Proverbs 31:11). Confidence is a key ingredient to developing companionship with your spouse. The longer you live with your spouse, the more you will understand and know their weaknesses, faults, and shortcomings. So many times, however, when couples argue, the first thing that comes out is something that is used as a weapon directed at one of the weaknesses.

For instance, a man may open up to his wife and admit to her that he is incapable of or finding it difficult to handle finances. The next time they have an argument, guess what comes out? “You never have a penny in your pocket.” What do you think happens after that? He is going to clam up. You have just broken confidence. Wives, sometimes you know things about your husbands that you share with other ladies at work. And men, you share things about your wives with other men at work. My friends, you are destroying the potential for companionship because there is no confidence; because you cannot trust each other. Solomon says, in his Proverbs, that in order to have companionship or confidence, you must cover transgressions and not repeat them.

  1. Counsel:

Counsel is also a part of communication. Look at Proverbs 27:9. I like this verse. “Oil and perfume make the heart glad, so a man’s counsel is sweet to his friend.” God has given the husband and wife an excellent source of objective wisdom. In fact, I think a marriage is strong when the couple is literally counseling one another. Now, when you, as a husband, want advice and ask your wife and she responds, do not say, “Well, that’s kind of dumb. I’ll do it my way after all.” No, accept the counsel. Solomon says that counsel is sweet.

  1. Caring:

The word “care” comes from the Gothic root that means, “to lament, to grieve.” Isn’t it interesting that we get our word “care” from that? Why? Because to lament or to grieve is to be emotionally involved with the effects, the situation, the life of another human being. So, if I am to care for my spouse, that means I am emotionally involved in that which hurts, that which helps, that which brings joy into his or her life. Caring is the tangible expression of love.